Chances are, you might not feel like you have a whole lot of choice when it comes to dating. You might very well have dates and you might even have a girlfriend from time to time. But something is always lacking. The women you date are great people, no doubt. But they don’t challenge you and fulfill you the way you’d like. You find yourself looking around, always wondering how to get your girl, the girl of your dreams.
The way that you can get your girl, the one you really want, is to have standards.
Now, you might have read that sentence and thought, “Man, I can barely get any woman to go out with me. It’s not like I’m Brad Pitt or something! How can I have standards?”
Well, we’re going to tell you how.
Increase Your Standards to Get Your Girl
Change Your Mindset
The first thing you have to do is change your negative frame of mind to a positive, confident one. Stop feeling like you have no choice, that you have no value, that you’re simply lucky if a woman talks to you.
Begin to see yourself as a man of high value, as a man who can get any woman he wants, as a man who multiple women want to be with.
We wont’ lie to you… this mental transformation doesn’t happen over night. You can’t just flip a switch. But as you work on your game, realize that you do have value. You can be more choosy than you thought.
Positive affirmations work well and many pickup artists and other self-improvement gurus use them daily to improve your mindset.
Enforce Your Standards
As a man who lacks confidence, you probably find yourself in the company of people you wouldn’t really dream about. This is a common situation. It’s one that I went through for years.
Personally, I could not stand the smell of cigarette smoke. I always said that I would never date a smoker. But I also deep down inside did not believe that I have the value to turn women away. So when a smoker might show some interest in me, then I would go along with it, and just chock on the stench.
This isn’t to say those women who smoked weren’t lovely people. It’s just that I didn’t want my apartment reeking of Marlboros, yet, consistently, I found myself dating women who smoked. I just tried to keep the windows open a lot.
As I started studying pickup artist techniques and as I got more confident in myself, I began to realize that I had a choice. I could decline an opportunity because there were going to be more opportunities. I didn’t have to date women who smoked. I realized that I could get the girl of my dreams, without settling for people who didn’t fit the criteria I wanted in my life.
This isn’t about judging or putting people down. It’s about recognizing that we all have different lifestyles and goals and aspirations and that some people simply aren’t conducive. If you’re a world traveler and that’s a really important part of your personality, you don’t have to settle for the woman who doesn’t even own a passport. You’re not judging her if you don’t want to date her. She can find someone who is more conducive to her affinity for hanging out at home.
It seems counterintuitive to say that you can get more opportunities by declining opportunities. But trust me, it works.
Stop going along with just and girl and you’ll see how it’s possible to get your girl.